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Be specific

The first step to getting what you want is to describe it in terms of what, who, when, where and how (or how much).

Visualize

The second step to getting what you want is to be able to (literally and figuratively) see, hear, feel, taste, and touch what it’s all about. It’s especially important to have a clear visual image of what you want to be, do or have. To gain one, you might collect examples of what you want or draw pictures of what you want or cut out pictures of it (magazines, newspapers, and even catalogs are good resources). If you’re not exactly sure of what you want, identify component part or pieces.

Even when the picture is not complete, it’s a beginning. From the image you can begin making time, space and other circumstances more and more of a reality.

Becoming totally focused

The third step to getting what you want is to make this goal your major overriding activity and don’t let anything or anyone get in your way. Become obsessed with getting or achieving what you want. Too often women let everyday chores and errands, other people’s desires and ongoing commitments and just plain life get in the way of their doing what they want. Don’t let this happen. If you want something enough, then you have to make it happen. “Being possessed” doesn’t have to last forever, just until you get it. That’s what it takes.

Be Positive

The fourth step to getting what you want is to be positive and enjoy what you do. Think about all the satisfaction of doing it, not the difficulties (although there will be those too). Be convinced of your future success. Give up all activities and all attitude that will impede your progress. When you hit a roadblock, don’t give up but rather find ways to overcome the problem. On down days say to your self, “even if I’m not accomplishing a lot today, I’m still doing something. Everybody hits a wall sometime. It won’t last forever. Tomorrow will be better”. Therefore your new positive approach should be very active and enthusiastic. Talk to yourself everyday about how excited you are about doing what you want to do.

Develop a plan of action with due dates

The fifth step in getting what you want is to develop an action plan, which is really nothing more than a series of ‘to do’ lists with due dates attached to the items. Be realistic about time and note them on your calendar.

Persist

In his book Peter McWilliams asks, “ How do you know how much work is required?” His answer: “When you have what you want. That’s when it’s enough. Until you’ve got it, it’s not enough”.

Be Grateful

Most of us are already blessed with more than we need in material things, loving family members, and wonderful friends. It’s healthy to be responsible and seek out what we want, but it’s also important to be thankful for what we already have. Every day stop for a moment to appreciate something beautiful, something delightful, something touching or someone wonderful.